What to Wear
If you aren't sure of the dress code, a simple conservative outfit shows respect for the family and other mourners. For men, a suit and tie is usually a safe bet. Women may consider a conservative dress, skirt, or pants with a tasteful blouse.
Religious & Ethnic Customs
Traditions and customs differ, so it's often helpful to ask beforehand about any special considerations. We can answer many of your questions and can point you toward resources that offer more information.
What to Say
Express your sympathy in your own words. Kind words about the departed are always appropriate, and a simple “I'm sorry for your loss” or “My thoughts and prayers are with you” can be meaningful and comforting. It is the sincerity of what you say that counts the most.
At a service with an open casket, you may choose to view the deceased, and, if you wish, spend a few moments at the casket in silent remembrance, meditation, or prayer. The family may escort you to the casket, or you might approach on your own. Viewing is not necessary, however, so you should do what is comfortable for you.
Signing the Register
Be sure to add yourself to the register book, using your full name so that the family can identify you in the future. It's also helpful to add information about how you knew the deceased — through work, social clubs, school, etc.
Flowers & Gifts
Sending flowers, making a donation, or giving a memorial gift let the bereaved know that they are in your thoughts, and acknowledge the time you spent with their loved one.
Turn Off Your Phone
If you choose to bring your phone into the funeral home, please make sure you've turned it off, or, at the very least, placed it on silent or vibrate.
Follow the Rules
Most cemeteries have a sign posted near the entrance with rules specific to the property. Follow the posted hours, as well as other rules, including any restrictions on floral arrangements.
Respect the Grave
Don't touch any monuments or headstones; this is not only disrespectful, but may cause damage to the memorials — especially older ones. Never remove anything from a gravestone, such as flowers, coins, or tributes that have been left.
Be Respectful of Services & Other Mourners
If a funeral is occurring, take care not to get in the way of processions. Respect their privacy and give them their space.
Speak Softly & Politely
Be respectful to other mourners. Remember to keep your voice down when having conversations. Make sure your phone is muted or turned off.
Supervise Your Children
If you bring children, please make sure that they do not run, shout, play or climb on graves, monuments, or trees. Before your visit is a good opportunity to discuss the respect that the occasion deserves.
Don't Leave Trash Behind
Use designated receptacles if they are provided; otherwise, take all trash with you when you leave.
*For further questions, please contact a member of our staff.
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