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Etiquette Tips

Respect & Courtesy

Every service celebrates a unique individual, with many different ways of acknowledging the loss of a loved one. Everyone else attending will appreciate your openness to what you see and hear, while showing respect for the occasion. 

What to Wear

What to Wear

If you aren't sure of the dress code, a simple conservative outfit shows respect for the family and other mourners. For men, a suit and tie is usually a safe bet. Women may consider a conservative dress, skirt, or pants with a tasteful blouse.

Religious & Ethnic Customs

Religious & Ethnic Customs

Traditions and customs differ, so it's often helpful to ask beforehand about any special considerations. We can answer many of your questions and can point you toward resources that offer more information.

What to Say

What to Say

Express your sympathy in your own words. Kind words about the departed are always appropriate, and a simple “I'm sorry for your loss” or “My thoughts and prayers are with you” can be meaningful and comforting. It is the sincerity of what you say that counts the most.

Paying Respect

Paying Respect

At a service with an open casket, you may choose to view the deceased, and, if you wish, spend a few moments at the casket in silent remembrance, meditation, or prayer. The family may escort you to the casket, or you might approach on your own. Viewing is not necessary, however, so you should do what is comfortable for you.

Signing the Register

Signing the Register

Be sure to add yourself to the register book, using your full name so that the family can identify you in the future. It's also helpful to add information about how you knew the deceased — through work, social clubs, school, etc.

Flowers & Gifts

Flowers & Gifts

Sending flowers, making a donation, or giving a memorial gift let the bereaved know that they are in your thoughts, and acknowledge the time you spent with their loved one. 

Turn Off Your phone

Turn Off Your Phone

If you choose to bring your phone into the funeral home, please make sure you've turned it off, or, at the very least, placed it on silent or vibrate. 

Cemetery Visits

Cemetery visits call for simple consideration for other visitors and their departed loved ones.

Follow the Rules

Follow the Rules

Most cemeteries have a sign posted near the entrance with rules specific to the property. Follow the posted hours, as well as other rules, including any restrictions on floral arrangements. 

Respect the Grave

Respect the Grave

Don't touch any monuments or headstones; this is not only disrespectful, but may cause damage to the memorials — especially older ones. Never remove anything from a gravestone, such as flowers, coins, or tributes that have been left.

Be Respectful of Services & Other Mourners

Be Respectful of Services & Other Mourners

If a funeral is occurring, take care not to get in the way of processions. Respect their privacy and give them their space.

Speak Softly & Politely

Speak Softly & Politely

Be respectful to other mourners. Remember to keep your voice down when having conversations. Make sure your phone is muted or turned off.

Look After Your Children

Supervise Your Children

If you bring children, please make sure that they do not run, shout, play or climb on graves, monuments, or trees. Before your visit is a good opportunity to discuss the respect that the occasion deserves.

Don't Leave Trash Behind

Don't Leave Trash Behind

Use designated receptacles if they are provided; otherwise, take all trash with you when you leave.

*For further questions, please contact a member of our staff.

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